Just recently I posted a picture on Instagram that I had put off posting for a long time due to my complete lack of body confidence and it inspired me to sit down and actually write about it as I know that everyone struggles with body confidence at some point in their lives.
Over the past year I have gained a lot of weight which is something I have really struggled to come to terms with. I tried literally everything to make myself feel a little bit better from shoddy fad diets, to slimming world, working out and going to the gym but when I weren’t getting the results I wanted fast I would turn straight back to food. But just recently I have come to terms with the fact I will never be a size 6 or a size 8 again and that is OK because my body simply isn’t supposed to be that way.
What I find absolutely crazy is that you can look at someone and think that they have the most incredible figure, beautiful skin and an amazing sense of style yet they could still have so many hang ups about their body. One thing I have learnt is that you will always want what you don’t have. For me, I look at my best friend and she has got the most amazing petite figure that I would do anything for, yet she absolutely hates it and would do anything to have curves similar to mine.
Social media, as much as I love it, has a lot to answer for when it comes to body confidence. There are so many mixed messages out there saying we should be counting macros, eating super foods, cutting out carbs, eating more protein, doing weight lifting and HIIT training at the gym. If we don’t do these things it makes us feel like we just aren’t good enough. Not only that, we see tonnes of pictures every single day of girls in bikinis looking toned, tanned and beautiful with not one stretch mark in site. I can,however, guarantee that even they have body hang ups like the rest of us.
Instead of focusing on our insecurities we should be learning to love the skin we are in in, cellulite and all. I have come to terms with the fact that I am and always will be curvy. Instead of trying to fight it by squeezing into the tightest pair of jeans I can possibly get my backside into, I have decided that I will learn how to dress my figure and play around with outfits until I find things I feel comfortable and sexy in. A few weeks ago I decided to go shopping for new underwear and set out to find something that I really did feel sexy in. It took endless amounts of trying on until I finally found something that covered the areas I felt more insecure about but at the same time showed off my best assets. I think that’s what it’s really about. Instead of comparing ourselves to others and making ourselves feel miserable that we don’t look a certain way, we should be finding what works for us and play around.
Another thing that plays a massive part in body confidence is caring what other people think. Whenever I used to go out I would feel so insecure because I thought that people would compare me to my friends that are much smaller than I am. Or I’d worry that I would run into someone I used to know from school and they’d think that I’ve put on so much weight since the last time they saw me. But now I just tell myself that I shouldn’t care what people think of me and in actual fact people probably couldn’t care less. As long as I am happy with how I look I don’t let other people’s opinions get to me.
So the moral of this ramble is to stop caring what other people think of you and start experimenting with your figure. Find what works for you and go with it. It does not matter whether you are a size 6 or a size 16, everybody is different and that is what makes you beautiful.